Thursday, 20 July 2017

Some misconceptions about introverts

There are many misconceptions about introverts. I am here with the help of this from Pinterest to set you straight.

Number 1 misconception: Introverts don't like to chat.

This is definitely not true. Introverts won't talk unless they really want to say something. Introverts find small talk and the like quite boring and would rather talk about more substantial topics than the weather and how hot it is or what is happening on Keeping up with the Kardashians.

Number 2 misconception: Introverts are shy.

Introversion and shyness are completely different. Shyness is the fear of social judgement whereas being an introvert is about how you energise yourself and how you talk to others. Introverts won't do the old fake air kiss routine and say "oh darling you look wonderful" when they don't.

Number 3 misconception: Introverts hate people

Introverts do not have hundreds of close friends. They have a small band loyal friends who for the most part drop everything to help out their friend. My standard for a friend is that if you need their help at 3am on a cold Wednesday morning, who are you going to call? I would suggest that an introvert would have more people to call at that time than someone who has hundreds of superficial friendships.

Number 4 misconception: Introverts are rude

I'm sorry if our abrupt nature hurts your sensibilities but I am here to talk about what we came to talk about not something about your life that everyone doesn't really want to hear about but they are being "polite." So get on with it.

Is that rude? Some people probably think so. They can go and get stuffed.

Number 5 misconception: Introverted people always want to be by themselves

No, of course not. Introverts do like social interaction but usually only with ONE person at a time. This way they can be authentic. They  can be themselves and they don't have to conform to any society pressures or rules that they don't like anyway.

Number 6 misconception: Introverts are strange

Of course when you take yourself away from the herd, people are going to think you are strange. Because your way of thinking is not what everyone thinks, they are going to try to bring you down to their level which is the worst way to go about it. Introverts don't make decisions that are based on what is trendy or what is "super-cool" now. They will make their decisions based on what they think in their heart.

Number 7 misconception: Introverts don't know how to have fun.

Oh yes! The classic extrovert way of thinking. Just because the introvert won't go out and have a few beers on a Friday night or go raging on a Saturday night at the "Super -cool" (can you see a pattern?) new hot spot club in town, in the eyes of an extrovert, it means that he or she doesn't know how to enjoy him or herself.

Well, just because he or she is not out and about, it doesn't mean that he or she is not having fun. Staying at home, sitting on the couch with that special someone, watching a movie, is the introverts ultimate way to have fun. They can sit there and recharge and get ready for another week.

There you have it. Some basic misconceptions about introverts. So before you start to label people, weird or aloof or rude. Think about it from their side, maybe they are saying that for a reason.

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