In this post I talked about three things to be more likeable.
In the post I also put in a scene from the movie Good Will Hunting.
It is this scene I want to talk about more today.
There is a quote I want to start with:
"True friends say good things behind your back and bad things to your face."
You get a great example of this from the video below:
In the movie, Ben Affleck's character and Matt Damon's character are best friends. They have basically grown up together and know each other as well as anyone in the world.
The words from Ben Affleck's character, Chuckie Sullivan when he tells his best friend, Matt Damon's character, Will Hunting have left me in tears on some occasions when I have watched it. It is what friendship is all about.
Because Chuckie only wanted the best for his friend and he wasn't frightened to tell it like it is. He told Will in no uncertain terms to pull his finger out, so to speak.
"No. No, no no no. Fuck you, you don't owe it to yourself man, you owe it to me. Cuz tomorrow I'm gonna wake up and I'll be 50, and I'll still be doin' this shit. And that's all right. That's fine. I mean, you're sittin' on a winnin' lottery ticket. And you're too much of a pussy to cash it in, and that's bullshit. 'Cause I'd do fuckin' anything to have what you got. So would any of these fuckin' guys. It'd be an insult to us if you're still here in 20 years. Hangin' around here is a fuckin' waste of your time."
In my opinion, everyone needs a friend like that. Someone who goes and has a few beers with you. Someone who shares your best moments and someone who shares your bad moments (and who doesn't run away).
Everyone needs someone who will have your back in the trenches but at the same time, tell you if you have fucked up.
If you have someone like that, hold on to them because that kind of person is priceless. They don't grow on trees.
In the video Chuckie was so selfless. He wanted his best friend to be successful even if it meant that he would never see him again. Just the fact that Will was successful would have been enough for Chuckie and at the end of the day that is what friendship is about.
Chuckie told the honest truth to Will and that is the pillar of any relationship. If you can't tell the other person the 100% truth then at best your are just acquaintances, not a true friend or a true partner.
In the clip Will took it well, he wasn't angry that Chuckie tore into him because he realised that his friend had his back and in any relationship if you can handle the truth from your friend or partner then you have that relationship. If you or they can't handle it, then you better walk away.
Don't take friendships for granted. Treasure them. Nurture them. Feed them and they will grow over time and you will know that you can't live without them.