Sunday, 25 September 2016

Extroverts v Introverts Part 2

This is the second part of my commentary on this article. Yesterday, we talked about the first of six statements of Extroverts v Introverts. Today, lets talk about the last six statements.

1. Extroverts share their "business" with everyone .... Introverts share their "business" with hardly anyone.

This relates to that fact that extroverts generally like to talk. They get energy from being around people, talking to them, socialising with them so it goes without saying that yes they are are going to share a lot more than an introvert who will share things with only their closest friends or family.

2. Extroverts express themselves best by talking .... Introverts express themselves best by writing

Case in point, this blog. I'm expressing my thoughts and the like through this blog. I could probably express it in presentations but may struggle when talking about face to face in a social or casual conversation.

3. Extroverts enjoy casual conversation .... Introverts enjoy deep conversation.

Look at the above point. Introverts struggle with that casual conversation. Lets call a spade a spade , lets call it bullshitting because in a way from an introverted point of view it is a conversation about nothing at the end of the day.

Introverts prefer something a bit more in-depth. Something that they can have a real good think about and have a great conversation about. In a group of guys although an introvert may look as though he is being a guy and enjoying the sexual conquest story of his mates, in fact he probably isn't interested in it at all.

4. Extroverts are good at multi-tasking .... Introverts prefer to delve into one task at a time.

At the beginning of 2010 my extroverted friend said that we should do the Golden Hour activity which is read for one hour in your field. We extended that by exchanging emails about what we read. At the time I said that I would read one book.  My extroverted friends said and I quote, "Nah! You don't want to do that. That's boring. You should read about 3 at time."

I now know that for me personally that wasn't the best thing to do. I should really concentrate on one book. Read it well. Understand the contents well and apply what I have read. Unfortunately I haven't done that and it has cost me a bit. I need to get back to one book only.

5. Extroverts shine in group settings .... Introverts shine in one-on-one settings.

Yep, I couldn't say this any better. Extroverts love the energy of the group whole introverts love the one on one settings. I can't add to that.

6. Extroverts enjoy the limelight .... Introverts try to avoid the limelight

This time last year I walked into a bar in Roppongi, Tokyo and I saw someone who I had met a couple of times. I'm pretty sure that she wasn't drunk but she was in the middle of the dance floor basically holding court. She just loved it. People were shouting at her and every word shouted at her she was gaining more and more energy. She just loved that limelight. She was in her element.

There you have it, extroverts v introverts. I think the next step in this is to understand each other and know why someone is doing what they are doing.

In my experience introverts get it, the extrovert not so much.

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