Haters are gonna hate.
If you make a decision to improve yourself, here is what you should do: Tell everyone that you know.
Do you know why you should do that?
Because then you will find out who is behind you and who wants you to fail. You can recognise the people who want you to fail by the following:
"You won't last."
"You've tried before and you failed big time."
"It's a waste of time. Go back to the couch and watch television."
"Why do you want to do that? Don't you have other better things to do?"
"You will f**k up. You always do."
You definitely find out who your friends are when you say that you want to get better.
At the end of the day the reason that they don't want you to succeed is absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. The more successful you become and the more noticeable you become, the more you are going to attract weaker people. Unfortunately it is a fact of life and you are going to have to deal with if you make the decision to improve yourself and become successful.
Malcolm Gladwell in his book The Tipping Point says that about 60% of the population have a herd mentality. Herd mentality is when you behaviour is influenced by your peers. The fact that you are even reading this blog post and even the fact that I am writing this is evidence that both you and I are trying to get away from that mentality.
If you are (and I use this word carefully) infected by the herd mentality, you will try to get other people to conform to what you think and what you think is "normal." What is "normal?" Who knows?
In our society, it can be hard to stand out but that is where the rewards are. What do you think would have happened to our world now if Steve Jobs and Bill Gates had listened to the haters? You know that there would have been many haters. There is absolutely no doubt about that.
Why do people not like you trying to improve yourself? Why do they hate?
It's simple. The people who are the haters are miserable. They are probably doing a job they hate. They are probably going home after doing that job and just watching television and going to bed and waking up, yes you guessed it, miserable. They are probably married to someone who doesn't knock their socks off. They are probably overweight and not doing anything about it.
Basically these people don't won't to be reminded that certain areas of their lives (probably all areas of their lives) are in the toilet. When they see you trying to make yourself better they are going to resent you because why? They are going to be left behind and it is easier for them to pull you back to their level rather than join you in trying to reach a higher level.
Everyone want to be successful but not everyone wants to do the work that will get them to that level of success. They are lazy.
The more successful you become the more you are going to have to deal with the haters and the unsupportive people out there.
What can you say to these people?
Well, be happy for the people around you. Don't be envious. Tell them that you are supporting them and they will be very happy to hear it.
Try it. Give them some support. You might like it and you might want to try to improve yourself. You never know unless you try.
If you improve yourself in one area of your life then that will spill over into other areas of your life and that is when the benefits come and you will certainly see and feel them.
Let me finish the blog post today by quoting life coach Corey Wayne. I think that he sums it all up very well in this quote:
“Everybody wants to be successful, but few people are willing to pay the price and put the time in that is required to become successful. The more successful you become, the more you will attract and draw the scorn of jealous, envious and unsuccessful people. People tend to attack in others either what they lack within themselves, or what other people are connected to on the inside that they are disconnected from within themselves. Unhappy people tend to envy, attack and ridicule happy people; unsuccessful people tend to envy, attack and ridicule successful people, etc. People also tend to project their unhappiness, fear, anger, self-hatred, self-loathing and internal inadequacy’s onto others to feel better about themselves. Successful people are self-reliant, self-motivated and outcome focused. Unsuccessful people blame others for their unhappiness or lack of success in an attempt to absolve themselves from any personal blame or responsibility for their failures, shortcomings and lack of success.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
Good luck as you and I embark on this journey for a more successful and fulfilling life.