Tuesday, 29 November 2016

Socialising: The Introvert Way

I saw this on Instagram the other day. It sums up introversion perfectly.

For those of you who didn't click on the link, it is from the_introverted_chick account and it says:

"Many people believe that introversion is about being antisocial, and that's really a misconception. Because actually, it's just that introverts are differently social. So they would prefer to have a glass of wine with a close friend as opposed to going to a loud party full of strangers."

This is introversion to a tee.

On Saturday there was a party at my place. I wasn't organising it but I was invited which was very nice. I chose to go out with a friend instead. I just wasn't comfortable being in a room full of strangers on that particular night. It doesn't mean I'm always like that but that particular night I just wanted to have a couple of drinks with my friend. I'm sure that the extroverts out there can not understand that at all.

I believe you have to understand how other people click. The quicker you learn this information the easier that you will understand that person and the better relationship you will have with that particular person. You will know when to talk and when to hold back. You will know when to give unsolicited advice and when to shut up.

To introverted people, it is ok to forgo that party and to go and have a couple of beers with your friend. You are doing what comes naturally to you and you shouldn't feel antisocial at all.

To extroverted people, not everyone is like you. Not everyone is going to want to party to sunup. Just because you like to do that doesn't mean everyone does and when your introverted friend decides that he or she wants to go home, let them. Do not make them feel bad about wanting to reenergise back home because that is what they are doing. I'm sorry to say, your party isn't doing it for them.

Introverts are not antisocial they just socialise differently. The sooner that everyone, and I mean everyone realises that the better society we will live in.

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