I was on the train the other day. It was just after 7.30 in the morning and surprisingly for a Tokyo train it wasn't particularly crowded.
On one side of me was a guy who sat down and pulled out of his bag a piece of grey paper. Actually it was quite a few pieces of grey paper with words written all over it. There was a photo of a man who looked like he wore a toupee and was wearing suit.
I asked what this grey thing was and he said that it was something called a newspaper. I hadn't seen one for a long time. I had forgotten what it was.
Anyway, jokes aside, I want today to talk about the guy who was sitting on the other side of me. Almost as I sat down the guy's head started to droop and he let his head rest on my shoulder.
Now, I'm a guy and unless the person sitting next to me is a good looking woman I'm not allowing anyone to use my shoulder as a pillow.
While this was happening, I was imagining why this guy had decided to use my shoulder as a pillow. I have a vivid imagination and this is what I came up with and I want to bet that I am pretty close to the truth:
The guy had been drinking and socialising until about 12.30am. He was probably with people he didn't like and didn't really care for but had to "fake it." He probably got the last train home arriving at his door at about 1.30am. He probably watched some television and maybe had a bath and got into bed after 2am.
However since he had an important presentation on that day he decided to go to the office early, so he was up at 5am and was on the train early but by that time he couldn't keep his eyes open and he was shot. He was done.
What I want to know is, was the drinking until the early hours of the morning worth it? Did it make him less miserable, because he looked pretty bloody miserable. I was thinking does he want to design his own lifestyle? Does he want to run his life according to his own desires and wants as opposed to his someone else's?
I'm willing to bet that the answer to these questions are yes, yes and yes.
Why be someone's lackey? Why celebrate the fact that it is Friday? Why can't everyday be Friday or Monday or Wednesday? Who cares?
We all have a chance to build our own lifestyles. We all have a chance to live our lives on our own terms. Very few people take this chance.
I for one am trying to build my lifestyle so I live on my own terms. I know that there are some things I have to do which I'm not comfortable about but I have to do and that is the difference between people who succeed and people who fail. The successful people do things that other people don't want to do now so that they can do what they want to do later.
I will use sleepy Joe on my shoulder as a motivation to build my body, build my mind, build my ambivertism, build my business and build my relationships.
I know that I have to watch what I eat, train most days, read, practice being more outgoing, work harder and smarter and take the opportunity to talk to as many people as possible.
These things are on occasions not particularly pleasant but they need to be done to get to where you want to be with things you want, with people you want to be in your life and the mindset to make it.