I saw this meme on Instagram the other day. The caption read:
CLOSED MOUTHS DON'T GET FED!
It got me thinking, is this true?
Is it true that if you don't open your mouth a lot then you are not going to get the rewards that you deserve?
It's an interesting question, isn't it?
Do you have to be a raving extrovert to get what you want? Is this what it is saying?
I don't think so. In this case, I don't think personality has anything to do with it. It doesn't mean that if you are quiet then you are going to starve. No, not at all.
What does it mean?
It means, in my opinion that if you don't ask, you will not receive. If you don't ask for what you truly want then it will never be presented to you.
If you don't ask the prospective client or customer the buying question then they may not buy.
If you don't ask for a discount then you may have to always pay full price. They may even be ripping you off.
If you don't ask that woman out on a date then you will never know.
Of course asking comes with the possibility of rejection and that can turn people off sometimes. Knowing that there is the possibility of a "no" makes people run away and hide and then they don't get what they want.
If a child wants a biscuit (cookie) then they are going to ask their mothers or fathers. The answer might be no but the child isn't going to die wondering.
I asked a woman out for lunch recently. She didn't say no, but her body language, facial expression and eye contact screamed "NO, THANK YOU." Oh well, move on. It's not the end of the world and now I know. If I hadn't said anything I would have died wondering and that is never good.
Remember if you wait around waiting for somebody to ask, you might be waiting for a lifetime and what is that saying?
"We will regret more the things that we didn't do (or ask) than the things we did do (or asked for)"
I think the quote goes something like that, but you get the point, right?