Today's message is short and sweet.
Never ever, ever, ever apologise for showing your true feelings. Just don't do it. What you are doing is being true to yourself. You are showing what you feel in your heart and what is wrong with that?
NOTHING!!!
You are being true to yourself and if someone wants to argue that fact with you then they probably don't deserve to be with you at all. Full stop.
NEVER APOLOGISE for doing what you believe is the right thing. NEVER!!!
Wednesday, 28 February 2018
Tuesday, 27 February 2018
BUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE
Hello and welcome back to The Daily RBL. In the time that I have been away I have created a website which I believe will be the basis for business that will have the world connecting ways that the internet cannot. Not online but offline, face to face where we understand each other better and we just all get along.
The Situational Extrovert is something that will help 'quieter' people get out there.
For someone who aspires to be an situational extrovert, there are few things that here to she can do to build his or her confidence. Let's run through some ideas now:
1. Focus on improving yourself and stop comparing yourself to others - People mature and grow at different stages in their lives. Just because you are such and such an age doesn't mean that they should have this, this and this. The world has changed so much over the years. We have teenage millionaires on Youtube and investing in bitcoin. However in saying that some of the top entrepreneurs didn't get into their stride until they were well into their 40's. Things come at different times for people. Just be ready when that opportunity arises.
2. Say "thank you" instead of "sorry."- I think some of us say sorry way to much. I have caught myself saying it a number of times recently and do you know what, I'm not sorry at all. I have just said it because that is what you are supposed to say but why?
3. Simply say "no" when you don't feel like doing it - We sometimes say yes when we really mean no and that can cause resentment to the person who gave the invitation when they don't really deserve it just because you were to much of a weakling to say no. If you don't feel like it just say "no" and stay home and relax and charge. It is that simple.
4. Stand tall - My mother always said this to me. You have to really stand up and look life right in the eye and say you are not going to get the better of me. You have to stand up and look that life right in the eye and say and I am going to win and I am going to win well. That might sound like it is hocus pocus bull crap but it is true. As they say what you think about with passion and faith will surely come to pass.
5. Exercise to keep yourself energetic - I was at the gym at 5.45am this morning. It is now 8.09pm as I am writing this. I'm starting to feel a little tired but I believe that the energy that I got from this morning's workout is fuelling me tonight. If yo don't do any exercise, go out and do something. Go out and have a walk. Go out and run around the block. Do something because if you don't your ass imprint will be on the couch in front of the TV for all eternity.
6. Smile to strangers - What I mean by this is when you are walking along the street just smile. You don't have to say anything or spend the next couple of days and nights with them, you just have to smile. What is difficult about that? You will definitely start to feel more confident. Also, guys, you don't have to only smile at the pretty ladies. Smiling at another guy does not make you gay. Really, it doesn't.
7. Sit straight - I used to think that people who sat straight looked pompous and idiotic. This is not true of course. They have good posture. They have confidence flowing through their body and it shows in that posture.
8. Record everything - Since I started my Crossfit gym I have basically just turned up. Did a few weights and metcons (This is Crossfit language for cardio workouts) and gone home. I realised that I missed a golden opportunity to record all my scores and my progress. I have started a diary that will record for me what exercise I have done and I have eaten. I'm sure this will help me get close to my goal in 2024. I won't tell you what it is but I am going to give it a shot.
There you have it, 8 things you can do to build your confidence. Good luck and tell me how it goes.
The Situational Extrovert is something that will help 'quieter' people get out there.
For someone who aspires to be an situational extrovert, there are few things that here to she can do to build his or her confidence. Let's run through some ideas now:
1. Focus on improving yourself and stop comparing yourself to others - People mature and grow at different stages in their lives. Just because you are such and such an age doesn't mean that they should have this, this and this. The world has changed so much over the years. We have teenage millionaires on Youtube and investing in bitcoin. However in saying that some of the top entrepreneurs didn't get into their stride until they were well into their 40's. Things come at different times for people. Just be ready when that opportunity arises.
2. Say "thank you" instead of "sorry."- I think some of us say sorry way to much. I have caught myself saying it a number of times recently and do you know what, I'm not sorry at all. I have just said it because that is what you are supposed to say but why?
3. Simply say "no" when you don't feel like doing it - We sometimes say yes when we really mean no and that can cause resentment to the person who gave the invitation when they don't really deserve it just because you were to much of a weakling to say no. If you don't feel like it just say "no" and stay home and relax and charge. It is that simple.
4. Stand tall - My mother always said this to me. You have to really stand up and look life right in the eye and say you are not going to get the better of me. You have to stand up and look that life right in the eye and say and I am going to win and I am going to win well. That might sound like it is hocus pocus bull crap but it is true. As they say what you think about with passion and faith will surely come to pass.
5. Exercise to keep yourself energetic - I was at the gym at 5.45am this morning. It is now 8.09pm as I am writing this. I'm starting to feel a little tired but I believe that the energy that I got from this morning's workout is fuelling me tonight. If yo don't do any exercise, go out and do something. Go out and have a walk. Go out and run around the block. Do something because if you don't your ass imprint will be on the couch in front of the TV for all eternity.
6. Smile to strangers - What I mean by this is when you are walking along the street just smile. You don't have to say anything or spend the next couple of days and nights with them, you just have to smile. What is difficult about that? You will definitely start to feel more confident. Also, guys, you don't have to only smile at the pretty ladies. Smiling at another guy does not make you gay. Really, it doesn't.
7. Sit straight - I used to think that people who sat straight looked pompous and idiotic. This is not true of course. They have good posture. They have confidence flowing through their body and it shows in that posture.
8. Record everything - Since I started my Crossfit gym I have basically just turned up. Did a few weights and metcons (This is Crossfit language for cardio workouts) and gone home. I realised that I missed a golden opportunity to record all my scores and my progress. I have started a diary that will record for me what exercise I have done and I have eaten. I'm sure this will help me get close to my goal in 2024. I won't tell you what it is but I am going to give it a shot.
There you have it, 8 things you can do to build your confidence. Good luck and tell me how it goes.
Monday, 19 February 2018
MY NEW WEBSITE
Hello everyone. Thank you for all of your support on my blog.
I have good news. I have a new website. I'm trying to turn this blog into a business and this website is the first step.
Please have a look and tell me what you think.
http://www.situationalextrovert.com
I am planning to keep this blog going at a later date while updating my blog on the website periodically.
As I said, thank you of all of your support.
I have good news. I have a new website. I'm trying to turn this blog into a business and this website is the first step.
Please have a look and tell me what you think.
http://www.situationalextrovert.com
I am planning to keep this blog going at a later date while updating my blog on the website periodically.
As I said, thank you of all of your support.
Saturday, 13 January 2018
THE DAILY RBL will be on holiday for a couple of months
Thank you for reading my ramblings on The Daily RBL.
I will be concentrating on other projects in the coming months so will not be updating this blog. I may return to it in a few months.
Thank you for reading it. Thank you for your comments and I look forward to seeing you again soon.
Blair.
I will be concentrating on other projects in the coming months so will not be updating this blog. I may return to it in a few months.
Thank you for reading it. Thank you for your comments and I look forward to seeing you again soon.
Blair.
Thursday, 11 January 2018
My morning epiphany
I had a great feeling this morning. Towards the end of last year, I was feeling stressed out. I was sick and I couldn't wait for the year to end.
As it turned out, I was stressed and I was sick which meant my two week holiday back in New Zealand was just recovering from the flu.
To a lot of you out there, that probably sounds like the worst way to have a holiday. I didn't feel like doing anything. I didn't really feel like socialising with anyone. I wanted to just be.
This, as it turned out was the best thing that could have happened.
Because I spent most of my time relaxing, not doing much, watching a lot of darts on TV, I arrived back in Japan feeling good and feeling like this is going to be my year.
(By the way, if you think that watching darts sounds as much fun as pulling teeth, have a look at this video, I'm sure you will change you tune.)
By doing nothing on my two weeks I believe I did the best for my body and for my wellbeing. A friend of mine was supposed to accompany me on my trip, but she had to cancel at the last minute. I was disappointed because I was looking forward to showing her around but in the end I believe it was a blessing in disguise.
Just because it is a holiday, don't feel pressured that you have to do everything and run around and be very busy. For some people (I'm looking at you extroverts) that might be the way to go but for some people two weeks of nothing may quite well be the tonic that you need.
Anyway, back to the great feeling this morning. Because of my sickness, I haven't been able to exercise as much as I want to. In fact I haven't exercised at all.
This morning was my second workout of the year and because of my absence from the gym I couldn't go full out but when I finished and walked to the station, I was feeling great. It was one of those feelings in which I felt detached from the rat race around me. I wasn't moving particularly fast but I felt in my own world and that was because of the exercise this morning.
Long may it continue.
Lets make 2018 the best it can be. Move your body. Work hard. Play hard. Love hard. (You know what I mean.)
As it turned out, I was stressed and I was sick which meant my two week holiday back in New Zealand was just recovering from the flu.
To a lot of you out there, that probably sounds like the worst way to have a holiday. I didn't feel like doing anything. I didn't really feel like socialising with anyone. I wanted to just be.
This, as it turned out was the best thing that could have happened.
Because I spent most of my time relaxing, not doing much, watching a lot of darts on TV, I arrived back in Japan feeling good and feeling like this is going to be my year.
By doing nothing on my two weeks I believe I did the best for my body and for my wellbeing. A friend of mine was supposed to accompany me on my trip, but she had to cancel at the last minute. I was disappointed because I was looking forward to showing her around but in the end I believe it was a blessing in disguise.
Just because it is a holiday, don't feel pressured that you have to do everything and run around and be very busy. For some people (I'm looking at you extroverts) that might be the way to go but for some people two weeks of nothing may quite well be the tonic that you need.
Anyway, back to the great feeling this morning. Because of my sickness, I haven't been able to exercise as much as I want to. In fact I haven't exercised at all.
This morning was my second workout of the year and because of my absence from the gym I couldn't go full out but when I finished and walked to the station, I was feeling great. It was one of those feelings in which I felt detached from the rat race around me. I wasn't moving particularly fast but I felt in my own world and that was because of the exercise this morning.
Long may it continue.
Lets make 2018 the best it can be. Move your body. Work hard. Play hard. Love hard. (You know what I mean.)
Tuesday, 9 January 2018
IT IS OUT THERE. YOU GOTTA GO FIND IT!
The advice today is short and very sweet.
Believe it or not, what you want is out there. I know what I want is out there. I've visualised it. (I know that sounds hocus pocus.)
What you have to do is work on improving yourself each and everyday. Don't settle. Don't accept half-assed attempts or half-assed work. Give it everything and guess what, you will get it. I know I will. I will get it. You have to have faith and it will be there. I assure you like I assure myself each and every day.
Believe it or not, what you want is out there. I know what I want is out there. I've visualised it. (I know that sounds hocus pocus.)
What you have to do is work on improving yourself each and everyday. Don't settle. Don't accept half-assed attempts or half-assed work. Give it everything and guess what, you will get it. I know I will. I will get it. You have to have faith and it will be there. I assure you like I assure myself each and every day.
Monday, 8 January 2018
LEARNINGS FROM INSTAGRAM
Here are some things that I have learned from Instagram over the last few weeks. What do you think about the following quotes?
https://www.instagram.com/p/BdqW-EJn2Bq/?taken-by=bennyesco
"If you really want it, then you must be willing to do whatever it takes to get it."
I would add here that you do whatever it takes to get it but as long as it is legal, ethical and all of that good stuff. There is no point getting what you want and being in jail.
https://www.instagram.com/p/BdrD3jNlq2V/?taken-by=powerofpositivity
"When I tell you that I love you, I am not saying it out of habit. I am reminding you that you are part of my life."
I think that words "I love you" should be used sparingly. It seems that people say it a thousand times a day like when they get off the phone etc. If you use those words sparingly, it means a whole lot more for the people listening to it and they might just believe you.
https://www.instagram.com/p/BdnD2gggdnp/?taken-by=noteofwisdom
"A woman can't change a man because she loves him, a man changes himself because he loves her!"
Do you agree with this? I think some people would agree and others would think that is is a load of tripe.
I agree with it. I think a man will change for a woman if he is 100% in love with her but in saying that he should only do it if he wants to and she is 100% in love with him before he changes. Does that make sense?
https://www.instagram.com/p/BdqW-EJn2Bq/?taken-by=bennyesco
"If you really want it, then you must be willing to do whatever it takes to get it."
I would add here that you do whatever it takes to get it but as long as it is legal, ethical and all of that good stuff. There is no point getting what you want and being in jail.
https://www.instagram.com/p/BdrD3jNlq2V/?taken-by=powerofpositivity
"When I tell you that I love you, I am not saying it out of habit. I am reminding you that you are part of my life."
I think that words "I love you" should be used sparingly. It seems that people say it a thousand times a day like when they get off the phone etc. If you use those words sparingly, it means a whole lot more for the people listening to it and they might just believe you.
https://www.instagram.com/p/BdnD2gggdnp/?taken-by=noteofwisdom
"A woman can't change a man because she loves him, a man changes himself because he loves her!"
Do you agree with this? I think some people would agree and others would think that is is a load of tripe.
I agree with it. I think a man will change for a woman if he is 100% in love with her but in saying that he should only do it if he wants to and she is 100% in love with him before he changes. Does that make sense?
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