Friday, 24 February 2017

The 4 Pains of Success

Here is an interesting quote:

"You gotta step out of your comfort zone. Be broke for a while. Lose some friends. Have some sleepless nights. Most people don't get it though.

If you are ever going to do anything in life. If you are ever going to succeed at something then those four things are almost a prerequisite.

First of all, step out of your comfort zone. We all get into comfort zones in our life where it all feels like we are on auto-pilot. We wake up, we shower, we shave (if you are a man), you do the other sh** thing. We take ourselves off to work. We put in a solid 8 hours work. We go home. We eat dinner. We watch television and then we go to bed and 8 hours later we wake up and do it all over again and at the end of the week or the end of the month we get some money in out bank account and we feel good about the world and our life in general.

This is the comfort zone and their is nothing wrong with it but then you might need a challenge in your life and this where you need to step out of your comfort zone. You might start your own business. You might ask that pretty woman who works at your company out for a drink on Friday night. You might decide to join the local Crossfit "box" and try to get fit and even enter the Crossfit Open. (If you are a Crossfitter, do it, enter the Open. Don't even think about it.)

By stepping out of your comfort zone you are changing your life for the better. Remember though that the business might fail, she might say no or she might say she has a boyfriend (half the time that isn't true) or you might not be able to do half the movements (that's me) but at least you wont die wondering.

Secondly, be broke for a while. This is not a nice thing to go through for anyone but you can learn a great deal about yourself an the people around you when that happens.

When you go broke you know who your real friends are and I know that from experience. Your real friends rally around you and help you out and don't let you get down. It is a traumatic experience but then it is a nice experience in a strange sort of way and for some people it can really light a fire under your backside to make sure you can repay them in kind.

You learn a lot about the value of money and also how to get it in abundance and although I wouldn't wish it on anyone it can be a real game changer for the right person.

Thirdly, lose some friends. Yep, that's happened to me and I have absolutely no regrets about them out of my life. I'm thinking now of one person in particular that if he saw me and talked to me now I would bet that he would be surprised.

I was one of those guys who wouldn't say no and if people know that they will use you for their own purposes and really guilt you if you have the gall to say no to them. Don't even worry about it. If they use you like that they were never your friend and your life will be better without them.

Of course people come and go in your life but the right ones will always come back into your life even if they wander.

"No amount of time and space can separate you from the people who are meant to be in your life. They will always come back."

Finally, have some sleepless nights. Unfortunately this is non-negotiable. If you are making changes in your life you are going to have nights where it seems like you are never going to sleep. You are worrying about this, you are worrying about that. Are these changes all worth it?

You ask yourself if it is all worth it and you might not think so but if you guts it out (as my cricket coach at school used to say) you will get the rewards. You have to put in the effort though and you have to risk having egg on your face but in the end if you put in the work the the rewards will come.

Just remember that there are going to be some uncomfortable times but if you get through them there will be truckloads of comfortable times. Luxury times, fun times and even wonderful times.

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