A quick post today because I forgot to bring the adapter for my computer and it is at 12% now and I want to post something today.
Oh well. "That will learn you" as someone used to say to me a lot.
It's the weekend and I'm sure you have heard me talk about this ad nauseam. (It's 8% now)
Do what you want, not what you think you should do or what others pressure you into.
Just because it is beautiful outside, doesn't mean that you have to go outside.
Just because it is the weekend, it doesn't mean you have to drink alcohol (I'm going that today though, because I want to.)
DO WHAT YOU WANT
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Saturday, 16 June 2018
Thursday, 14 June 2018
3 PROBLEMS THAT ALL INTROVERTS HAVE
We all have problems, don't we? Even the people that look like they have their lives together and look like they have everything, also have problems. It's what being a human being is all about, and guess what, if you don't have problems then I would question how you are living your life and whether or not you venture out of the house at all.
Anyway, lets move on to the biggest problems that all introverts have:
1. Wanting to be invited, but not wanting to go anywhere
Of the three problems written here, I can relate to this one the most. Sometimes, you do want to be recognised. Sometimes, you do want that invitation to a night out with the boys or the girls. Sometimes, you do want to have a night out at the bar talking about sports, making money and picking up chicks. However, there are occasions that even though you want these things, you just don't have the energy and going out and talking to a whole bunch of people that you don't know is the worst thing and would just drain you of so much energy.
2. Being lonely at home, but not wanting anyone in your space unless you really like them
Yep, this is another one I can surely relate to. It was very rare and still is to let anyone come to home. I have very rarely had parties at my home and if I ever did, it was only very few. Compare that to my brother who had a big party for his 21st birthday. Sure, I will have close friends or a girlfriend around but not hundreds. Definitely not.
3. And even if you really like them, you want them to go home soon
Friends yes, Girlfriend, No way Jose. I making breakfast for her the next morning.
I found this at the following URL:
https://www.pinterest.jp/pin/251427591678011267/
This blog was discontinued as of June 19th, 2018.
Please check my two new projects:
http://www.situationalextrovert.com
Also, my new daily blog which will begin from July 1st, 2018:
https://doing-the-opposite.blogspot.com
Anyway, lets move on to the biggest problems that all introverts have:
1. Wanting to be invited, but not wanting to go anywhere
Of the three problems written here, I can relate to this one the most. Sometimes, you do want to be recognised. Sometimes, you do want that invitation to a night out with the boys or the girls. Sometimes, you do want to have a night out at the bar talking about sports, making money and picking up chicks. However, there are occasions that even though you want these things, you just don't have the energy and going out and talking to a whole bunch of people that you don't know is the worst thing and would just drain you of so much energy.
2. Being lonely at home, but not wanting anyone in your space unless you really like them
Yep, this is another one I can surely relate to. It was very rare and still is to let anyone come to home. I have very rarely had parties at my home and if I ever did, it was only very few. Compare that to my brother who had a big party for his 21st birthday. Sure, I will have close friends or a girlfriend around but not hundreds. Definitely not.
3. And even if you really like them, you want them to go home soon
Friends yes, Girlfriend, No way Jose. I making breakfast for her the next morning.
I found this at the following URL:
https://www.pinterest.jp/pin/251427591678011267/
This blog was discontinued as of June 19th, 2018.
Please check my two new projects:
http://www.situationalextrovert.com
Also, my new daily blog which will begin from July 1st, 2018:
https://doing-the-opposite.blogspot.com
Wednesday, 13 June 2018
Social Recluse
This article is one of the most interesting I have read. It is about the hikikomori people in Japan. Predominately men, it shows a sad side of society who I believe has failed these people. Basically the hikikomori guys have given a big middle finger to society and have said in their actions that if you don't want what I have to offer, then you can go and get stuffed.
Lets have a look at some of the things written in the article:
1. "According to him, he is a great man and could do extraordinary things, but he does not aways try his best."
OK, if he doesn't try his best then that is 100% his problem but I wonder if he wanted, when he was younger to do things that his parents and immediate peers didn't approve of. I wonder if they tried to force him to change those things. I hope not but it could well be the case.
2. "In Japan, there are always two sides that oppose one another. It is both modern and traditional, bustling and very lonely."
This isn't really connected to hikikomori but it is actually really interesting. My friend has actually mentioned it a few times when he says "Japan is a perfect mix of 1950's and 2050's." He is not far off the mark.
Tokyo can also be a very lonely place. You would think that in a "town" of 15 million people that it would be impossible to get lonely but the opposite is the case. It can be very lonely. You live by yourself. You have few friends. You don't have many hobbies. Maybe you are a little shy. Do you understand what I am saying?
3. "Riki always tries to be outstanding, but has a fear of making mistakes."
Unfortunately, this is a problem in many societies. People are ridiculed for having a go and if they fail they are made fun of, ostracised. It takes a certain type of person to overcome that and it would be easy to go into that state of well if I am going to be made fun of I'm not going to do anything. How do you fix this? I don't know. That's a tough one.
4. "In Japan, where uniformity is still prized, and reputations and outward appearances are paramount, rebellion comes in muted forms, like hikikomori."
Yep, that sums it up. Parents, families want their sons to go to a good university, get a job in a prestigious company or take over their hanko (seal) shop when in fact that son wants to become a dancer or at least try to be. You have a clash right there between the perceived duty and the individualism of the man. So they say "stuff it" I'm going into my room.
5. "The longer the hikikomori remain apart from society, the more aware they become of their social failure."
I couldn't agree with this less. I'm sorry, society has failed them, not the other way around. This is the clash between the 1950's attitude and the 2018 attitude. Encourage them to do something different. Encourage them to fail. It's ok.
6. "Chujo, 24, has been a hikikomori for two years. He has dreams of becoming an opera singer, but as he is the eldest son, his family wants him to join the family business."
See what I mean? That's exactly what I wrote in number 4. He wants to become an opera singer and good luck to him I say but no he is caught between the duty of the family and his own dreams and aspirations so he locks himself up. Nobody is winning here. Everybody is losing.
Unfortunately this problem is not going to go away quickly and with more and more individualistic attitudes spreading, the clash between 1950's and 2018 will continue.
The "sisters" alluded to in this article are great but it is just a band aid. You have to fix the root of the problem and that will take generations.
This blog was discontinued as of June 19th, 2018.
Please check my two new projects:
http://www.situationalextrovert.com
Also, my new daily blog which will begin from July 1st, 2018:
https://doing-the-opposite.blogspot.com
Lets have a look at some of the things written in the article:
1. "According to him, he is a great man and could do extraordinary things, but he does not aways try his best."
OK, if he doesn't try his best then that is 100% his problem but I wonder if he wanted, when he was younger to do things that his parents and immediate peers didn't approve of. I wonder if they tried to force him to change those things. I hope not but it could well be the case.
2. "In Japan, there are always two sides that oppose one another. It is both modern and traditional, bustling and very lonely."
This isn't really connected to hikikomori but it is actually really interesting. My friend has actually mentioned it a few times when he says "Japan is a perfect mix of 1950's and 2050's." He is not far off the mark.
Tokyo can also be a very lonely place. You would think that in a "town" of 15 million people that it would be impossible to get lonely but the opposite is the case. It can be very lonely. You live by yourself. You have few friends. You don't have many hobbies. Maybe you are a little shy. Do you understand what I am saying?
3. "Riki always tries to be outstanding, but has a fear of making mistakes."
Unfortunately, this is a problem in many societies. People are ridiculed for having a go and if they fail they are made fun of, ostracised. It takes a certain type of person to overcome that and it would be easy to go into that state of well if I am going to be made fun of I'm not going to do anything. How do you fix this? I don't know. That's a tough one.
4. "In Japan, where uniformity is still prized, and reputations and outward appearances are paramount, rebellion comes in muted forms, like hikikomori."
Yep, that sums it up. Parents, families want their sons to go to a good university, get a job in a prestigious company or take over their hanko (seal) shop when in fact that son wants to become a dancer or at least try to be. You have a clash right there between the perceived duty and the individualism of the man. So they say "stuff it" I'm going into my room.
5. "The longer the hikikomori remain apart from society, the more aware they become of their social failure."
I couldn't agree with this less. I'm sorry, society has failed them, not the other way around. This is the clash between the 1950's attitude and the 2018 attitude. Encourage them to do something different. Encourage them to fail. It's ok.
6. "Chujo, 24, has been a hikikomori for two years. He has dreams of becoming an opera singer, but as he is the eldest son, his family wants him to join the family business."
See what I mean? That's exactly what I wrote in number 4. He wants to become an opera singer and good luck to him I say but no he is caught between the duty of the family and his own dreams and aspirations so he locks himself up. Nobody is winning here. Everybody is losing.
Unfortunately this problem is not going to go away quickly and with more and more individualistic attitudes spreading, the clash between 1950's and 2018 will continue.
The "sisters" alluded to in this article are great but it is just a band aid. You have to fix the root of the problem and that will take generations.
This blog was discontinued as of June 19th, 2018.
Please check my two new projects:
http://www.situationalextrovert.com
Also, my new daily blog which will begin from July 1st, 2018:
https://doing-the-opposite.blogspot.com
Tuesday, 12 June 2018
Two "interesting" men (post-script)
Last year I wrote the following post:
https://dailyrbl.blogspot.com/2017/08/an-open-letter-to-two-interesting.html
Today it seems that those two who ten months ago were going to bomb the shit out of each other are now in talks to stop all of that and it is great to see.
The world needs nuclear weapons like it needs a hole in the head and while I am on that subject, don't get me started on nuclear power.
Countries need to follow the New Zealand way, no nukes. By the way that is an unconditional law in New Zealand and it doesn't matter what side of the political spectrum is in power, it is going take some balls for a ruling party to revoke that one.
Anyway, everything looks hunky-dory. For how long? Time will tell I suppose.
This blog was discontinued as of June 19th, 2018.
Please check my two new projects:
http://www.situationalextrovert.com
Also, my new daily blog which will begin from July 1st, 2018:
https://doing-the-opposite.blogspot.com
https://dailyrbl.blogspot.com/2017/08/an-open-letter-to-two-interesting.html
Today it seems that those two who ten months ago were going to bomb the shit out of each other are now in talks to stop all of that and it is great to see.
The world needs nuclear weapons like it needs a hole in the head and while I am on that subject, don't get me started on nuclear power.
Countries need to follow the New Zealand way, no nukes. By the way that is an unconditional law in New Zealand and it doesn't matter what side of the political spectrum is in power, it is going take some balls for a ruling party to revoke that one.
Anyway, everything looks hunky-dory. For how long? Time will tell I suppose.
This blog was discontinued as of June 19th, 2018.
Please check my two new projects:
http://www.situationalextrovert.com
Also, my new daily blog which will begin from July 1st, 2018:
https://doing-the-opposite.blogspot.com
Sunday, 10 June 2018
What can Professor Nash and Doctor Cooper teach us?
Have you even seen the movie A Beautiful Mind?
A Beautiful Mind is a movie about the life of John Nash, a mathematician. The movie won four Academy Awards and just showed the acting prowess of Russell Crowe who also did Gladiator around the same time in which he got the Oscar for Best Actor.
Some of my favourite scenes in the A Beautiful Mind movie are the real cringeworthy moments where Russell Crowe's character does not really play along with social convention like telling a beautiful woman at the bar that they should skip the small talk and the drink buying and just get to the "fluid exchange." If only it was that easy Professor Nash.
Russell Crowe's character in this movie reminds me of Sheldon Cooper from The Big Bang Theory. Unfortunately, there are things in society that you don't say and both of these characters say them and they can be cringy as well as funny, especially in Sheldon Cooper's situation.
What do you do when you meet these kind of people because you are bound to run into one or two of them over the course of a year or two?
1. Acknowledge that they are not clued up to society's expectations (whatever that means.)
2. You have to take what they say with a grain of salt. Laugh it off. See it as been quite entertaining.
3. Don't get offended. They will not realise that they are offensive to most people. Think of it like water off a duck's back.
At the end of the day, I am sure that we have all said things that we later thought was probably not the best thing to say. I know I have.... many times. You have just got to laugh it off. Chalk it up to one of life's experiences and move on. Don't dwell on it like I have in the past.
A Beautiful Mind is a movie about the life of John Nash, a mathematician. The movie won four Academy Awards and just showed the acting prowess of Russell Crowe who also did Gladiator around the same time in which he got the Oscar for Best Actor.
Some of my favourite scenes in the A Beautiful Mind movie are the real cringeworthy moments where Russell Crowe's character does not really play along with social convention like telling a beautiful woman at the bar that they should skip the small talk and the drink buying and just get to the "fluid exchange." If only it was that easy Professor Nash.
Russell Crowe's character in this movie reminds me of Sheldon Cooper from The Big Bang Theory. Unfortunately, there are things in society that you don't say and both of these characters say them and they can be cringy as well as funny, especially in Sheldon Cooper's situation.
What do you do when you meet these kind of people because you are bound to run into one or two of them over the course of a year or two?
1. Acknowledge that they are not clued up to society's expectations (whatever that means.)
2. You have to take what they say with a grain of salt. Laugh it off. See it as been quite entertaining.
3. Don't get offended. They will not realise that they are offensive to most people. Think of it like water off a duck's back.
At the end of the day, I am sure that we have all said things that we later thought was probably not the best thing to say. I know I have.... many times. You have just got to laugh it off. Chalk it up to one of life's experiences and move on. Don't dwell on it like I have in the past.
Saturday, 9 June 2018
It's the WEEKEND ... FINALLY!!!
It's the weekend!
For some of you, you are thinking "WOOOOOOOOOOO HOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't have to slave for a boss who doesn't appreciate me for 64 hours."
Remember also that you don't have to be forced into anything that you don't want to do. Just because it is the weekend, it doesn't mean that you have to go out to all hours of the morning, drinking, dancing, flirting or whatever. Of course if that is your thing then go for it. You will have a great time.
But, Introverts, I'm talking to you. Don't be forced to go to the party if you don't want to. You know as well as I do that you will turn up at work on Monday feeling unenergised and the week will be a slog. A long, uncomfortable slog which is not doing anybody, any good at all.
Go and sit in the park and have a read. Go to that restaurant that you have always wanted to go to with your significant other. Fire up the Netflix or Hulu or whatever you use.
The weekends are for you and not what other people dictate to you.
Have a good one everyone.
Friday, 8 June 2018
PEOPLE WHO LUNCH .... OR DON'T
Why is it that as soon as the clock strikes 12pm, people file out of their offices to get lunch? Who made this rule that lunch time should be 12? I think it sucks personally. But most people walk around like zombies not questioning what I have just questioned and just go to the local restaurant or store to get something to eat whether they are hungry or not.
Why?
Just because that is how it is always been and who am I to question it?
Well, guess what? You are a person and I am guessing that since you are reading this you have probably got some brains, you have probably got some intelligence, so why don't you question this lunch hour thing?
I was reading an article yesterday in which it was questioning the whole 9 to 5 thing. I think we have come to a stage in our development in that we can work out when a person can work to the best of their abilities and it is not necessarily 9 to 5. It could be 7am to 1pm, then their productivity could fall right off and a warm body is sitting in the office but it is not doing anything.
It is time we wake up and question these generic times and generic working hours. What do you think?
Anyway, lets get back to the lunchtime thing. I'm sure that a lot of you are not hungry at 12. So what can you do at 12 that doesn't necessarily involve eating and could be better for you overall, health wise?
1. Go for a walk.
If you are stuck behind a desk all day, that walk could do you a lot of good. You don't have to breath the air conditioned air. You get some fresh air and some sun and hey, you could even get a tan if you are that way inclined. This walk will leave you energised for the rest of the day.
2. Go to the gym
I know some guys at the gym I go to spend their lunchtimes working out. They tell me that they don't really eat lunch or if they do they scoff it down at their desks after their exercise. They have quite high-pressured jobs so they tell me that the gym session breaks up their day quite well and gives them some energy for the afternoon.
3. Read
If walking or working out is not your thing then you could go outside and hopefully there is a park nearby and do some reading. Of course you could do this at your desk but remember we want you away from that environment for a short time.
4. Run errands
During your working hours you might not have enough time to go to the post office or the bank or even a dentist appointment. Use this time for that. Just getting out from behind that desk and walking (please tell me you will walk the five minutes to the bank, not take the car) will help you with the energy in the afternoon.
5. Device shutdown
Heaven forbid!!!! Did I just write that? Yes I did. I know from personal experience that it would be difficult to do, but imagine going the whole lunch hour without looking at your phone. I mean you probably sit in front of a computer all day so why sit in front of a phone all lunch time?
6. Thinking time
Lunch time in the park is another great time to do some thinking. Maybe about your job or that little side business you are trying to put together or even other things in your private life. It is amazing what you can come up with by just sitting in solitude for thirty minutes or so.
There you go. You don't have to trudge off to the local restaurant because all of your other colleagues are going to. You have other things to do with your time.
Have you noticed that a few of these suggestions are good for introverts?
I wonder why that is.
Why?
Just because that is how it is always been and who am I to question it?
Well, guess what? You are a person and I am guessing that since you are reading this you have probably got some brains, you have probably got some intelligence, so why don't you question this lunch hour thing?
I was reading an article yesterday in which it was questioning the whole 9 to 5 thing. I think we have come to a stage in our development in that we can work out when a person can work to the best of their abilities and it is not necessarily 9 to 5. It could be 7am to 1pm, then their productivity could fall right off and a warm body is sitting in the office but it is not doing anything.
It is time we wake up and question these generic times and generic working hours. What do you think?
Anyway, lets get back to the lunchtime thing. I'm sure that a lot of you are not hungry at 12. So what can you do at 12 that doesn't necessarily involve eating and could be better for you overall, health wise?
1. Go for a walk.
If you are stuck behind a desk all day, that walk could do you a lot of good. You don't have to breath the air conditioned air. You get some fresh air and some sun and hey, you could even get a tan if you are that way inclined. This walk will leave you energised for the rest of the day.
2. Go to the gym
I know some guys at the gym I go to spend their lunchtimes working out. They tell me that they don't really eat lunch or if they do they scoff it down at their desks after their exercise. They have quite high-pressured jobs so they tell me that the gym session breaks up their day quite well and gives them some energy for the afternoon.
3. Read
If walking or working out is not your thing then you could go outside and hopefully there is a park nearby and do some reading. Of course you could do this at your desk but remember we want you away from that environment for a short time.
4. Run errands
During your working hours you might not have enough time to go to the post office or the bank or even a dentist appointment. Use this time for that. Just getting out from behind that desk and walking (please tell me you will walk the five minutes to the bank, not take the car) will help you with the energy in the afternoon.
5. Device shutdown
Heaven forbid!!!! Did I just write that? Yes I did. I know from personal experience that it would be difficult to do, but imagine going the whole lunch hour without looking at your phone. I mean you probably sit in front of a computer all day so why sit in front of a phone all lunch time?
6. Thinking time
Lunch time in the park is another great time to do some thinking. Maybe about your job or that little side business you are trying to put together or even other things in your private life. It is amazing what you can come up with by just sitting in solitude for thirty minutes or so.
There you go. You don't have to trudge off to the local restaurant because all of your other colleagues are going to. You have other things to do with your time.
Have you noticed that a few of these suggestions are good for introverts?
I wonder why that is.
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