Introverts: You will understand these - Part 4

This was interesting on Instagram.

The 21 things that only introverts will understand. I'll spend a few days going through them and maybe explaining them to you from my experience. The passages in bold are from the Instagram post:


10. When you say, "Sorry, I already have plans that night." Your "plans" are to watch Netflix, colour, or read - basically to chill at home.

This is a crucial one. Never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever say that you are doing nothing when someone asks you "what are you doing tonight?" In my experience, this is an interesting one because if you say nothing then the extrovert will expect you to accompany them to their local watering hole or concert or something similar. The trick here is to know you audience. If they are going to guilt you into going with them then you have to make you plans sound exciting and better than what they have in store for you. Also you want to make it seem like they are not invited. I would suggest going up with a dozen or so stories that you can trot out if you don't feel like it.

Remember though, that you can't say no every time because there might not be a next time and that is not what we are trying to accomplish here. Be strong enough to say no but also know yourself well to know when to say yes.

Of course you can always Netflix and Chill. You will get no argument from me with that. All power to you, I reckon.


11. When you're staring out a window, just daydreaming, and you can't be bothered by anything.

Introverts are so in their mind that sometimes we can't be disturbed. Is there anything wrong with this? Absolutely not. As I said above, all power to you. This is where the really good ideas come from.

Do you think that Thomas Edison was out partying on a Friday night or getting pissed (slang for drunk, not angry) with his mates? Probably not.

12. When you were supposed to be paying attention in class, in a meeting, or to your friend's story, but instead your mind started thinking about outer space, time travel, and the fate of humanity instead.

Oh god! Where do I start with this one? They say that introverts are good listeners which is not entirely true. In fact, for some of us, it is so far from the truth that it can be quite sad.

I think you and I need to get better at this because, to be quite frank, it is not cool at all.

Look out for future posts about listening techniques that you can use to be a better listener or at the very least pretend to be a better listener.