Monday, 10 April 2017

Fight loneliness: Get out and about


In this post I talked about being stuck on a deserted island and whether or not it would introvert heaven. Maybe for a few days it might but I would say that it would get very old, very quickly. Even the most introverted of introverts are going to want some kind of socialisation from time to time.

What is the socialisation?

You could join a sports team.

Guess which one I am. Hint: I'm wearing white cricket clothing and a blue blazer.

You could join some kind of a club.

You could join the gym.

That's a 102 kilogram deadlift. Not bad for an old fella, right?

You could even join some kind of shared work place where you are maybe not doing much socialisation but you don't feel isolated and there are more things to do than being stuck at home.

Just try to stay away from loneliness. According to this article is could kill you and I can sort of understand why.

In the article there are a few things that I have to disagree with. The author suggests that it sucks to be alone on a Friday night. I don't think so. If you have been working hard all week on your mission and purpose and if you have a busy weekend ahead then I believe that there is nothing better than relaxing at home. Maybe have a beer or two. Cook some dinner and prepare for the weekend. I like to go to the gym early on Saturday morning so I don't want to have too many beers on a Friday night anyway.

However if you haven't done anything that week then I would suggest getting out and about because you will feel miserable and that is never a good place to be.

Many people accept loneliness as better than the other thing which is rejection. Rejection hurts believe me but even if you are being rejected at least you are out there. You are out and about, getting into it as we used to say in New Zealand. Rejection only lasts for a couple of minutes while loneliness can last for many months and imagine the damage it is doing to you as you sink further and further into depression.

As the title of this post suggests, fight that loneliness. Get out there. Hit the gym. Go and have a drink at your favourite bar. Go and watch your favourite sporting team. Do something. Sitting alone staring at the wall is not healthy and you might find that it is shaving years off your life and that is never good.

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