https://introvertdear.com/news/things-that-horrify-introverts-the-most/
I saw this article the other day. It was a really interesting read so I thought that I would go through it and see how the 13 things that horrify introverts apply to yours truly and to some people I know well. Here are the 13 things. How do they apply to you? I would love to hear your comments.
1. When people call - and a text or email would have been sufficient. - Hmm, this is an interesting one. Maybe it says something about my age or my upbringing, I'm not sure but I prefer to use the phone especially when you want to organise something. Going back and forth by text can be very annoying and on some occasions can take hours or days just to organise a meet up on a Friday evening.
2. Not being able to exit an intense social setting. - This has pissed me off over the years. When my energy has been used up and I want to go home and crash, there is always one person who takes it as a personal affront that I would even contemplate going home and would peer pressure me to stay and then complain when I wasn't as energetic as before. I wish I understood then what I understand then.
3. Networking events. -
"What do you do?"
"What do you do on the weekends?"
"Why did you come to Japan?"
"Can you speak Japanese?"
"Where do you live?"
"Nice to meet you."
I'm getting sleepy just writing these things. I think you guys get the idea.
4. Being put on the spot. - This is an interesting one. For me it depends on the day and how I am feeling. On some days, if I'm put on the spot then that is fine, I just take it in my stride. On other days there is absolutely no way that you are going to get me up there in front of other people and potentially make a fool of myself. Find someone else.
5. Two words that strike intense fear into my heart are "overnight stay." - I don't really understand this one. I love overnight stays especially in an area that you are not familiar with. Double points if it is near a beach or lake or a scenic area where you can go for walks etc.
6. First dates terrify me. - Not any more. I am so used to these first dates that it just gets boring occasionally. I think what terrifies introverts about first dates are the batches of small talk that we have to go through. Loo at number three in this list to get an idea of what I am talking about. A first date is just like a networking event but for two people instead of 200 people.
7. Public speaking scares me to death. - No. I've always enjoyed public speaking one of those things that seems to be so scary to most people. I remember a few years ago I went to an event in which I had to speak. The people before me were so nervous that they couldn't get off the stage fast enough. The mumbled their way through the speech and basically ran off the stage.
8. Getting trapped in a social commitment that can prolong for hours. - I remember when I was younger I would want to go to my father's social functions or the sport team's club rooms. This was fun for a few hours but then I wanted to go home but my father would want to stay, talking and catching up with friends. He would tell me that he was ready to go but the time between that proclamation and actually getting in the car to go was an extremely long time as he seemed to want to say goodbye to everyone in the club rooms and their dogs as well. Now I understand why my mother would get shitty with him and curse under her breath as we waited for his grand exit.
9. Having roommates - thus having to be social all the time - is an introverts worst nightmare. - Never had a problem with this one. I would just go into the room, sometimes without saying "hi" and do my thing in there. Nothing wrong with that.
10. My biggest fear is being embarrassed. - Not for me. I do embarrassing things all the time in the guise of trying to improve myself. Let me think of some, oh yes, salsa dancing lessons. I was terrible. I had two left feet. Playing sports that I wasn't very good at. I had the gymnasium laugh at me one time. I'm sure my face went the same red as my singlet. Sure, I was embarrassed but I realised that that embarrassment is only for a short period of time. It is only for that day. How many other people who were present in that gymnasium on that day remember it? Um, maybe about zero.
11. I feel my introversion can scare off a romantic partner. - Yes and no. Your smile could scare them off. The way that you say the word "specific" might scare them off. Who knows? Maybe even your toe could scare them off.
Well George, that was an interesting study in the relationships between men and women.
12. I fear being alone forever because of my introversion. - Just like in number 11, your introversion is not going to make you be alone. Other things might but don't blame introversion.
13. I find it horrifying when my work manager announces, “Let’s have a team-building exercise today.” - Well, I don't work in a team so I'm fine with this one. Sure the people I do work with might have one or two things a year but it isn't a big deal and what is three hours out of your year?
There, you see? It isn't a huge problem being an introvert. I don't know why people make it out as such. You are just doing things that are perfectly normal to YOU.
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