DOES SHY MEAN THAT YOU ARE BORING?

I'm a fan of cooking shows. Whether it be Masterchef or some other kind of show. (In fact recently I've been watching a show on Netflix about BBQing.) I enjoy watching the contestants come up with restaurant quality dishes and then having it judged by the panel of experienced and famous chefs from around the world. I've even watched one episode of Masterchef New Zealand in which I would like to copy what they have done in that particular show. I didn't know what a croquembouche was at that time but I do now and I think that it would be a good challenge even if I can't boil an egg. Oh dear!

One day I was watching the Gordon Ramsay show Hell's Kitchen. This show is interesting too but I seem to prefer Masterchef as the contestants are talented amateurs as opposed to Hell's Kitchen in which the contestants seem to be trained chefs from the start.

Anyway Gordon Ramsay, who I quite like on television. I don't know why. I find him very entertaining and I really like his passion and I wish that I had a fraction of the passion that he shows. He was tasting the signature dishes of the contestants. One of the contestants had admitted to the camera that she was shy. I wondered if what she meant was that she was introverted.

By the way, I'm sure you know that difference between being shy and being introverted but if you don't here it is:

Introvert = the way you energise

Shy = the fear of social judgement.

They are not one in the same.

Back to Hell's Kitchen. Gordon Ramsay was tasting the dishes and he came to the "shy" woman's dish. He tasted it and his critique was that the dish like her was boring.

That got me thinking, does being shy mean you are boring? Does that apply to introverts as well? Do some people think because you are not speaking at the top of your voice and the fact that you are not raving every Friday night that you are boring? 

The answer to the question is, it depends. Some people are going to see you as boring. Unfortunately, that is life. They see a timid person who doesn't have a voice who is not gregarious who is constantly avoiding human communication. It sounds harsh I know but what can you do about their judgement of you? Nothing. You could prove them wrong but I am sure that you have other things to do rather than trying to please some party animal.

The people who do know you are going to know the true you. They are going to know your sense of humour, they are going to know your intelligence, they are going to know your playful nature.

Let me ask you, who do you want to impress more? The party animals who probably don't even know your name or the people that mean the most to you? 

I think the answer is pretty obvious.

Shy people are boring to some people but they have a lot to offer to other people. So before you start judging people see if that they might have something to offer you.