Introvert Tactics

I watched the following video the other day and he makes some excellent points in it. Let me go through them:

First of all, being introvert has nothing to do with being shy. Actually in the video he gives an excellent example about how introverts roll. He says that he will be in a club and then after a couple of hours he'd wish that he was back home on the couch watching a movie or something similar which is Introvert 101.

Also, what does being an introvert have to do with social anxiety. Remember it is about how you recharge yourself not whether you crumble in the front of other people. Although in saying that, some people are going to struggle

Lets go through the five pieces of advice in this video:

1. Nervous Reframe

This is an excellent piece of advice. You are not nervous about what is going to happen but you are excited about what is going to happen.

In this video, a lot of his examples are about pick up and talking to women, so the example would be rather than being nervous that you might look stupid and get made fun of, you are excited that you are going to meet someone great and you might go out on a date with them later.


2. Utilise your Passion

I like this one a lot and I say this in my blog as well. When someone asks you "What do you do?' they are mostly waiting for you to say your job title and preferably in language that they can understand. However, when you start talking about your passion then you become excited and you will become a more interesting person and people will ask you more questions and it snowballs from there.


3. Make it Certain

What holds us back is uncertainty and because we don't know what is going to happen we don't want to do anything. But if you prepare and you have a plan of attack then in your mind you are going to be more calm and whatever happens you knew it was going to happen.



4. Initiate Always

In my opinion this is the best piece of advice in the video. Always take the lead. If you are a man and you see a woman that you want to talk to, go over and say hi and remember you don't need any fancy pick up line like "I've lost my phone number. Can I borrow yours?" That's just cheesy.

If you see someone you haven't seen for a long time, go over and say hi. You don't have to spend the next three days and three nights with them, just say hi and talk for a couple of minutes and say bye. I assure you the other person will be happy that you made the effort to initiate it and if they aren't, what did you do? You went and said hi. What a monster you are! (That's sarcasm.)


5. Stay Mysterious 

I must admit that I don't really get this one but I suppose if you focus your attention on the other person, then you are not going to be talking too much and the other person would be happy because you are talking about them and then they realise that you haven't said anything and that would make them realise that they don't know you at all.


In summary:

• Make it exciting
• Talk about your passion
• Certainty
• Initiate
• Mysterious

Excellent video. Take a look if you haven't already.

IS IT THE BEAUTIFUL GAME?

There is no doubt that football (soccer) is the sport of the masses, the most popular sport in the world. There is no argument about that.

The excitement, the passion of the players and the supporters, the last minute goals to win or draw the game:

It's all there and it can be fantastic sporting theatre. However like any theatre there is always a villain and that villain is the constant running at the referees, shouting and gesticulating. The diving and the simulating, I think it ruins it all.

This afternoon I was watching the final game of the J League season. FC Tokyo had to beat Yokohama Marinos by four goals to become champions. In the end Yokohama won quite easily 3-0 and became champions for the first time in 15 years but what struck em about the game was midway through the second half when the FC Tokyo striker Kensuke Nagai was going for goal and was fouled  by the Yokohama keeper. Whether it should be a yellow card or a red card was debated and needed with people running at the referee and his assistant and it just got tiresome.

For me what was a great spectacle was ruined by the antics of the players.

I think that referees should be more fearless in giving cards for that kind of shenanigans. Also yellow cards should be like rugby and be a 10 minute sin bin.

I would like to know what football fans think of my 10 minute sin bin thoughts.

Situational Extrovert Gets Out of His Comfort Zone

Part of the Situational Extrovert experience is about getting out there and doing new things.

Over the years I have tried things that people have given me grief for. For example, I went to a salsa class a few times. I was completely useless. I had two left feet if you now what  mean.

I went to a couple of guitar lessons. These lessons were about as successful as the salsa ones.

I even would do something first that other people were scared to do. I remember when I was at school and we had a fundraising hole in one competition on the field. I arrived at school early on that day and decided to have a go. None of my other friends wanted to step up so I did. It was a total disaster. The ball hit the side and made a huge noise but not as loud as the laughter coming from behind me.

Of course at the time it was a touch embarrassing but when I look back on it, I was proud of myself for getting out there and having a go before anyone else.

That is what the Situational Extrovert is all about. Getting out of your comfort zone for a short time. Stretching yourself.

What are you going to do this week to get yourself out of comfort zone? To expand your world.

ENGAGING WITH SERVICE STAFF

Do you engage with sales staff or shop staff or servers in a restaurant?

As a situational extrovert I suggest you do exactly that from time to time. It will help you build situational extrovert confidence and I'm sure that it will make their day.

You don't have to do it every time because that will tire you out, believe me.

Do it once in a while but make sure that it is relevant and real not some made up banter you had written the night before.

ENGAGE, ENGAGE, ENGAGE and tell me how it went.

Good luck.

TINDER etc

Hands up if you have never heard of Tinder?

Tinder is almost synonymous with dating in 2019. Every single person seems to have it on their phone and people swiping by the millions every day.

As a situational extrovert, sometimes it can be difficult to approach that person and start a relationship out of thin air. Tinder or whatever application you use can do that hard work for you but as some of you probably know, there are some things that might happen that can be difficult to cope with.

Ghosting

Ghosting is when the other person just disappears. You seem to getting along very well and then he or she just runs away. They become a ghost and you have no idea what happened. At the end of the day, unless you have met them in the flesh, they were literally just words and pixels on a screen and maybe they are doing you a favour.

As a situational extrovert, we want to encourage you to get out of the house and meet people but we know that it can be a little difficult so apps are the best but don't rely on them 100%. If you get out of the house, you might never know who you will meet.

It's good to be back.

I've said this a few times over the last month that I'm going back to daily blogging. This blog is called The Daily RBL after all.

I've decided that today, December 1st, 2019 is the day that it starts again. Why December 1st? Because we all think because it is December why don't start on January 1st? What's the point in that?

Don't expect many epic blog posts in the coming days because it will take me a few days to create the habit again.

That's the whole idea for me to do this, to create the habit again and turn things around for me which have been going down a little recently.

Thank you again and I look forward to the next, I don't know how many posts.