It's not what you say ...

It's not what you say, it's how you say it. Remember that. It's not what you say, it's how you say it.

This has taken me a long time to appreciate what that statement means.

When you are at a party or a bar or some kind of social gathering. Maybe a soiree, you will always find people gathered around one or two people in particular.

That person is in the middle of the circle telling a story and to the introverted ear, it might sound quite boring and mundane but because he or she is saying it with such passion and enthusiasm people are captivated by it and their energy rubs off on the story teller and he or she keeps going and going. All because of how they say it.

A friend of mine is very good at this. He has, when I think about it told some real bad stories. Some of them, if I transcribed them here, you would fall asleep by the second or their sentence but because he is such a good storyteller, it is compelling to listen to.

In the next few weeks really concentrate on not what you say, but concentrate how you say it. Think of your delivery. Think of what attitude you are showing and think about your energy.

When you do this, people will start to listen to you and who knows, you might become the life and should of the party. You might have to go home early but you will have a lot of new friends.

Good luck. It would be interesting to hear how you go with this.