RULES OF LIFE - PART 1

I found an article the other day about the 8 rules of life. Lets have a look at them and tell me what you think. Today I will go though the first four.

1. Failure is a beginning, not an end

Yes, this is a very good thing to remember but it is difficult when you have failed because you feel like wallowing in self-pity for the foreseeable. The most ignorant thing is to realise WHY you failed and to learn from it.


2. If you don't go after it, you won't have it

If you decide you want something, go for it. Give it 100%. Decide now that that is what you want and move heaven and earth to get it. I'm thinking of something right now that I want and I am going to get it. You watch this space. I am determined about it. I have never been more determined about anything in my life.


3. Go the extra mile

I would say that yes, this is good advice but only go that extra mile if you deem it worthy. You are wasting your time if you go that extra mile and no one appreciate it's or even worse doesn't notice it. To me that just seems a waste of time.


4. Assume nothing and query everything 

That is one thing I have noticed in this country, Japan, the culture is to respect the teacher and the teacher is very rarely if ever challenged. I have seen it happened before with foreign students and the teacher is visibly uncomfortable. If you don't challenge things you are going to become very. very gullible and that is not a good thing.

KISS

KISS!

No. I'm not talking about the thing you do when you touch someone or something with your lips. I'm talking about KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid).

Why make it complicated? Why do we make it so difficult for us?

Here are some rules I saw today:

1. Do you miss somebody?

- Why don't you call them? Say hi.


2. Do you want to see someone?

- Invite them to some place. what is the worst thing that can happen? They say no?


3. Do you think that people misunderstand you?

- Explain to them what you are thinking.


4. Do you have many questions?

- Don't be embarrassed, ask if you have any questions.


5. If you don't like it, say so.

- This is correct especially in this day and age. In saying that, people do get really offended if you do say so. You can't win, can you?


6. What if you like something?

- Say that also. Even in this day and age people still like the odd compliment here and there.


7. What do you do if want something?

- You ask for it and if that doesn't work, you make a plan to acquire it.


8. What to do if you love someone?

- Tell them. Tell them "I LOVE YOU."

WHO GIVES A FUCK? IT IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO. FUCK THEM!

"Take being called Crazy as a compliment. It means you've found the courage to be yourself when so many other have not." - Brooke Hampton

Yep, I understand that a lot. I am crazy for doing what I am doing. Maybe I am a glutton for punishment but I know it is the right thing to do and I'm sure that I will be proved correct in the very near future.

I was proved correct before when other people thought I was crazy and will be correct this time. As long as you are strong with your convictions and your beliefs anything can happen and you will be called crazy because that is just the byproduct of people who don't understand you or don't want to understand you because it is too much outside their comfort zones.

Go ahead! Be Crazy! See if I care. You will probably achieve something that no person could ever imagine.

Persistent then be Consistent

Here is an interesting quote from Instagram:

"If you are persistent, you will get it. If you are consistent, you will keep it."

I forgot this recently. I would say that I was successful in the first part of the quote but I was not very successful in the second part. I was persistent in getting what I wanted but then I didn't keep it going after that.

So, I have to go back to square one which is unfortunate but I hope to come out a better man because of it.

You have got to use the pain to your advantage.

Let me say it again:

"If you are persistent, you will get it. If you are consistent, you will keep it."

REVENGE ...... OR IS IT?

A new phrase has come to my attention recently, 'Revenge Body.' "What is Revenge Body?" I hear you ask. Well let me try to explain it to you using urban dictionary:

When you break up with someone, usually a cheating piece of shit who really wasn't worth your time and you work your ass off to look the best you can just to piss him/her off and make them regret their poor choices.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

Apparently, there is even a TV show starring Khloe Kardashian called 'Revenge Body.' In which two people per episode go through a makeover, both in the body and their mind.

Although the video above has a guy in it, I believe that the revenge body is primarily for women who are trying to get 'revenge' on their ex-boyfriends.

Although, in saying that, I don't believe that it is revenge at all and it is a little misleading calling it that. In get into that a bit later.

I believe the male equivalent for this is the following. Have a look at this video and have think about what it is trying to say:

What did you think?

Was she a gold digger?

I don't think so even though she portrayed herself to be with telling him her husband's salary. I don't think it would be fair to call her that.

She was trying to get him to become the best version of himself which in the end he did and did she regret it? Probably, but the other guy was looking after her well anyway so I'm sure she was happy.

So did that guy get revenge on the woman?

I don't think so, he just took the pain that he was feeling, and it was obvious that he was feeling it for a long time and used it as energy to make him the best he can be.

Did the women get revenge on their ex-boyfriends by losing a whole bunch of weight. I don't think so. They just used that to energise themselves and become the best people they could be. I applaud them all for that.

In the video of the man meeting his love after a long time, it says:

The Best Revenge ever is Success.

Love for Someone's Heart, not their things. A Good Heart is Bigger than Anything.

I'm sure the man would have achieved success if the woman had stuck with him, but she chose things over her heart and at the end of the day, that is her prerogative.

I just wonder what happened after that? We may never know.

Quote of the Day - December 12th, 2017

Here is a good quote  I saw the other day:

"Don't attempt to reconnect with toxic people from your past just because you're feeling lonely. Focus on getting better and attracting better."

I have fallen into this trap a few times over the years. I have learnt to concentrate on myself and then you will start to attract the things and the people that are supposed to be in your life.

IS DRINKING COFFEE THE HEIGHT OF BEING SOCIAL?

I was told yesterday that I should drink coffee. When I asked why that was the case, I was told it is a good social thing to do because when you go to someone's house they will invariably ask you if you want a coffee.

So what?

What is the difference between not wanting to drink alcohol and not wanting to drink coffee?

In one word: Nothing.

Why should I be pressured to drink coffee when, for two reasons: I don't like the flavour of coffee and  I really struggle with hot drinks. I find that my mouth is pretty sensitive and it burns quite easily so I would rather drink something cold.

It is so ingrained in a lot of people to offer tea or coffee that when you ask for something cold it almost comes as an inconvenience to people.

I guess the moral of this post is to not be pressured into doing anything that you don't want to do. Why should you drink coffee because it is the thing to do or it is the social thing to do?

If people pressured you into doing it, run the other way, very quickly.