What to do when you get kicked to the curb

"As I look back on my life, I realise that every time I thought I was being REJECTED from something good. I was actually being re-directed to something better."

I know that the above quote might be difficult for some of you to hear on occasions but unfortunately that is the only way to look at it. You have to positive. You have to smile and think of the best.

It is difficult and it is not the best situation but you just have to go over in your mind (not too much) what you did and what the other person did and then think what you would do differently in the future.

If you can learn from that then all power to you and you can go onto bigger and better things.

One thing I will advise you to do is not to display that stiff upper lip. I think that emotion is good as it acts as a release. Let it all out if you have too. You will feel better and let you get on with it.

Embrace the uncertain

Here is a good quote from Coach Corey Wayne:

"Choose to embrace an uncertain future with hope, optimism and a focus on what you want to create. With enough time, patience, action and self-love, everything that you perceive to be missing from your life will eventually manifest and often exceed your expectations."

There are a lot of us out there, me included who can go and bury their heads in the sand when there is uncertainty in the air.

I think that the most important thing is to have the right mindset. The mindset that has you thinking positively. The mindset that has you visualising what is going to happen.

After that you need to focus on exactly what it is that you want to create.

Then, as the Coach says, you need to have that patience because unfortunately it is not going to happen over night.

With that positive attitude and that patience, things will start to happen and it will get better and better.

I'm sure that it will happen to you if you put the work in.

Keep turning up. Keep doing the right things. Don't slacken off as I have in the past. Be consistent, that is the secret of it all.

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What decision will you make?

"One of the hardest decisions you'll ever face in your life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder."

This is the thing, isn't it. Whatever decision you make, you must be all in. You must be committed to trying harder or you must be committed to walking away. No half measures.

I believe you will know when to walk away. You will know in the bottom of your gut.

Most of the time you will need to try harder and just give it 100%. Nobody else will be able to criticise you if you give 100%

Sometimes in life, you will come to this decision. What is it going to be?

My Solitude is My Solitude ...

"My solitude doesn't depend on the presence or absence of people, on the contrary, I hate who steals my solitude without, in exchange, offering me true company."

Basically what this is saying is that I'm OK being alone. I have no problem with that but if you do want to join me, make sure that you are offering me something real. Something that I can relate to. Something that I want. I don't want inane smalltalk about things that are of no interest to me.

FINDING YOUR PURPOSE

"Sometimes the people with the greatest potential often take the longest to find their path because their sensitivity is a double edged sword - it lives at the heart of their brilliance, but it also makes them more susceptible to life's pains. Good thing we aren't being penalised for handing in our purpose late. The soul doesn't know a thing about deadlines."

- Jeff Brown

Does this strike a chord with you?

Have you taken a long time to figure out your life purpose?

Were you worried that everyone around you knew what they wanted to do?

If it worries you, listen to the following song:

"Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most 40-year-olds I know still don't."

- Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen) by Baz Luhrmann


"You don't choose your life's purpose, you discover it. When you do, it opens up a whole new world to you."

- Sandy Gallagher

Let me tell you something, when you discover your life purpose you wonder why you didn't discover it a long time ago.

Sandy Gallagher also says that your purpose should benefit people long after you have departed this earth.

I suppose the 'take home' from today is that you will find your purpose. It might not pop up straight away but if you keep on doing the right things, then one day your purpose will present itself. Run with it. You never know where it will take you.

When a quiet person "explodes"

Here is an interesting article  about a New Zealand cricketer who was charged with assault.

Ordinarily for me, this kind of news wouldn't do much for me. I would just gloss over it and that would be it.

What really interested me about this was the following line from the article:

Both Curwin and Stead were stunned to learn of McClure's behaviour with the rising batting prospect described as "mild-mannered."

"It's totally out of character," Stead said.

"Kenny is normally pretty mild-mannered and you don't usually hear too much from him. It certainly came out of the blue."

Oh yes?

What I see here is (and this is without actually meeting the guy) that he is definitely an introverted guy. He probably keeps to himself a lot but is still popular guy within the team environment. Maybe he doesn't say much but when he does say something then people listen. I know that was my experience.

Sometimes the quiet ones can be pushed to their limits. Sometimes people who you think are quiet and not saying much, do have an explosive side. I know I do when I have stupid people around me.

I'm not condoning what this guy did. Assaulting another person is just not on at all.

Sometimes however, a quiet person is going to explode and if they do just let them. Let them vent. As long as they don't start committing a crime like this guy then just let them go. You will find that they will be back to their usual self soon enough and probably, like the cricketer, embarrassed about it.

SOME ADVICE FOR TODAY

*Please be warned. Some bad language coming up in this post.

You really should give a fuck.

We get the advice all the time that "don't give a fuck." In certain circumstances, that is good advice. You shouldn't care about things that don't matter or that don't affect you in any way.

However. the things that really get you going, that really light a fire in you, those circumstances, you should give a fuck. The things that really matter in in your life.

Remember you shouldn't give a fuck about the things you can't control but 100% give it for things you can control.

Good luck!