If it's "OK" for an extrovert to point out how quiet someone is, why is it so wrong for an introvert to point out how loud someone is? I need to talk more? You need to shut up more...
That's all. Can anyone give me an answer?
Friday, 5 May 2017
Thursday, 4 May 2017
CLOSED MOUTHS DON'T GET FED! Really?
I saw this meme on Instagram the other day. The caption read:
CLOSED MOUTHS DON'T GET FED!
It got me thinking, is this true?
Is it true that if you don't open your mouth a lot then you are not going to get the rewards that you deserve?
It's an interesting question, isn't it?
Do you have to be a raving extrovert to get what you want? Is this what it is saying?
I don't think so. In this case, I don't think personality has anything to do with it. It doesn't mean that if you are quiet then you are going to starve. No, not at all.
What does it mean?
It means, in my opinion that if you don't ask, you will not receive. If you don't ask for what you truly want then it will never be presented to you.
If you don't ask the prospective client or customer the buying question then they may not buy.
If you don't ask for a discount then you may have to always pay full price. They may even be ripping you off.
If you don't ask that woman out on a date then you will never know.
Of course asking comes with the possibility of rejection and that can turn people off sometimes. Knowing that there is the possibility of a "no" makes people run away and hide and then they don't get what they want.
If a child wants a biscuit (cookie) then they are going to ask their mothers or fathers. The answer might be no but the child isn't going to die wondering.
I asked a woman out for lunch recently. She didn't say no, but her body language, facial expression and eye contact screamed "NO, THANK YOU." Oh well, move on. It's not the end of the world and now I know. If I hadn't said anything I would have died wondering and that is never good.
Remember if you wait around waiting for somebody to ask, you might be waiting for a lifetime and what is that saying?
"We will regret more the things that we didn't do (or ask) than the things we did do (or asked for)"
I think the quote goes something like that, but you get the point, right?
CLOSED MOUTHS DON'T GET FED!
It got me thinking, is this true?
Is it true that if you don't open your mouth a lot then you are not going to get the rewards that you deserve?
It's an interesting question, isn't it?
Do you have to be a raving extrovert to get what you want? Is this what it is saying?
I don't think so. In this case, I don't think personality has anything to do with it. It doesn't mean that if you are quiet then you are going to starve. No, not at all.
What does it mean?
It means, in my opinion that if you don't ask, you will not receive. If you don't ask for what you truly want then it will never be presented to you.
If you don't ask the prospective client or customer the buying question then they may not buy.
If you don't ask for a discount then you may have to always pay full price. They may even be ripping you off.
If you don't ask that woman out on a date then you will never know.
Of course asking comes with the possibility of rejection and that can turn people off sometimes. Knowing that there is the possibility of a "no" makes people run away and hide and then they don't get what they want.
If a child wants a biscuit (cookie) then they are going to ask their mothers or fathers. The answer might be no but the child isn't going to die wondering.
I asked a woman out for lunch recently. She didn't say no, but her body language, facial expression and eye contact screamed "NO, THANK YOU." Oh well, move on. It's not the end of the world and now I know. If I hadn't said anything I would have died wondering and that is never good.
Remember if you wait around waiting for somebody to ask, you might be waiting for a lifetime and what is that saying?
"We will regret more the things that we didn't do (or ask) than the things we did do (or asked for)"
I think the quote goes something like that, but you get the point, right?
Wednesday, 3 May 2017
You need to get rid of these things ...
I know from personal experience that there there are things in my life that don't make me a better person at all, in fact they make me feel really bad and make things even worse.
What are these things that you and I need to get out of our lives so that we can live a life of success and abundance and all of that good stuff?
1. Trying to please everyone
There will always be somebody in your life that doesn't like what you stand for or are doing or even the way you carry yourself. At the end of the day that is their problem, not yours. When we stop trying to please everyone our lives change for the better. Once you decide not to please everyone you will know what you like and dislike. For example, I don't like drinking alcohol just for the sake of it but to please the people around me I would have some even though I just wanted a Coke or a glass of iced water. I didn't want to anger these people so I would drink and in doing so I made a complete ass out of myself.
2. Fearing change
For a large number of us the idea of change can be very scary and it is no coincidence that the successful people out there are the ones who really embrace the change. They really see the change and they use it to make their life better instead of running away from it.
That reminds me of the cartoon that I have seen from time to time. There is a guy up on his soap box asking the assembled mass, "who wants change?" They all raise their hands. The guy then asks, "Who wants to change?" No-one puts their hand up. That sums it all up really.
You can see that cartoon here.
3. Living in the past
Sometimes I catch myself thinking about some stupid thing that I have done in the past and I literally stop in the middle of the street to rid myself of this thought. It must look absolutely weird for the people around me as I basically stop walking to literally get rid of the thought. (I pretend I have something in my eye.)
We can't change what has happened in the past. Obviously we can't control that but we can control what we are doing in the future and that is what we should be concentrating on, as well as the present moment.
4. Putting yourself down
I don't think that there is anything wrong with a bit of self-deprecating humour as long as it doesn't go too overboard. If you go overboard, you invite others to make fun of you and then that is where things can get really bad. The advice is to surround yourself with people who respect you and build you up. The ones who don't respect you are trying to bring you down to their level and if they are, get out of there as soon as possible before disaster strikes and it will if you let it.
5. Overthinking
What is that saying? Paralysis by analysis? Is there anymore I need to say?
If you overthink then you might chase away some ideas that if you implement in your life they might change it for the better. Sometimes the best thing is to jump into the swimming pool. It might be cold and unpleasant at first but after awhile it begins to warm up and things become great. But if you had thought about it for a number of minutes then you would probably chicken out and that is not good for you or anyone that could have benefited from your idea.
What are these things that you and I need to get out of our lives so that we can live a life of success and abundance and all of that good stuff?
1. Trying to please everyone
There will always be somebody in your life that doesn't like what you stand for or are doing or even the way you carry yourself. At the end of the day that is their problem, not yours. When we stop trying to please everyone our lives change for the better. Once you decide not to please everyone you will know what you like and dislike. For example, I don't like drinking alcohol just for the sake of it but to please the people around me I would have some even though I just wanted a Coke or a glass of iced water. I didn't want to anger these people so I would drink and in doing so I made a complete ass out of myself.
2. Fearing change
For a large number of us the idea of change can be very scary and it is no coincidence that the successful people out there are the ones who really embrace the change. They really see the change and they use it to make their life better instead of running away from it.
That reminds me of the cartoon that I have seen from time to time. There is a guy up on his soap box asking the assembled mass, "who wants change?" They all raise their hands. The guy then asks, "Who wants to change?" No-one puts their hand up. That sums it all up really.
You can see that cartoon here.
3. Living in the past
Sometimes I catch myself thinking about some stupid thing that I have done in the past and I literally stop in the middle of the street to rid myself of this thought. It must look absolutely weird for the people around me as I basically stop walking to literally get rid of the thought. (I pretend I have something in my eye.)
We can't change what has happened in the past. Obviously we can't control that but we can control what we are doing in the future and that is what we should be concentrating on, as well as the present moment.
4. Putting yourself down
I don't think that there is anything wrong with a bit of self-deprecating humour as long as it doesn't go too overboard. If you go overboard, you invite others to make fun of you and then that is where things can get really bad. The advice is to surround yourself with people who respect you and build you up. The ones who don't respect you are trying to bring you down to their level and if they are, get out of there as soon as possible before disaster strikes and it will if you let it.
5. Overthinking
What is that saying? Paralysis by analysis? Is there anymore I need to say?
If you overthink then you might chase away some ideas that if you implement in your life they might change it for the better. Sometimes the best thing is to jump into the swimming pool. It might be cold and unpleasant at first but after awhile it begins to warm up and things become great. But if you had thought about it for a number of minutes then you would probably chicken out and that is not good for you or anyone that could have benefited from your idea.
Tuesday, 2 May 2017
What is a sapiosexual?
SAPIOSEXUAL
Can anybody tell me what this word, sapiosexual, means?
I asked someone this question recently and their response was:
"Haven't you heard of Google?"
That's quite funny. I can imagine in schools all over the world,
"Hey teacher. What does photosynthesis mean?"
"Hey student. Don't you know what Google is?"
OR
"Sir. What was the old guy's name who published the theory of relativity."
"I don't know. Have a look and see what the Internet says."
Anyway, lets get back to the topic at hand:
What is a sapiosexual?
Apparently, a sapiosexual is someone who prefers someone's intelligence over their physical appearance.
This doesn't mean that you don't appreciate a man's pecs or biceps or calf muscles.
This doesn't mean that you don't appreciate a woman's legs or posterior or mammary glands.
No, it just means that you are more concerned about their intellect and what is going on in between their ears and also the interesting stuff that is coming out of their mouth.
What should you look for to know if you are a sapiosexual or not?
The first thing is that you might not find the person you meet attractive at start but the more you talk to them the more you grow to like them. Maybe from the beginning, their physical look might have not grabbed your attention but after that you realise that they do have something going on and you want to learn more about them.
The second thing that you might be a sapiosexual is that you would rather have a great intellectual conversation than play hide the sausage. I'm not saying that you don't want to play the aforementioned game but you get really stimulated by the conversation first and then you might do some other things.
The third thing to know if you are a sapiosexual or not is that you don't care if they have a BMW or a Rolex or wear Calvin Klein underwear. All that you care about is whether they are always learning. You care about if they want to have in-depth discussions. You are looking for someone who is well read. You are looking for someone who talks about the latest scientific discovery as opposed to what happened on Keeping up with the Kardashians. (By the way, that is not a dig at the Kardashian family. They must be doing something right to have millions of viewers a week. What do they say about people who watch too much television? Television is for people who have forgotten about their dreams and watch other people accomplishing their dreams. That sort of makes sense doesn't it? When we watch sport, that is basically what we are doing.)
When I was at high school, we had an assembly every morning. We would sing a song. I remember on Mondays it was the national anthem and then we would say the Lord's Prayer:
Our Father, which art in heaven
Hallowed be thy name.
Thy Kingdom come....
By the way, I'm not religious at all. I just remember the Lord's Prayer as we probably said it at school more than 1000 times.
After that, one of the senior teachers would read out messages and the like. One of the teachers was very funny in that he could pick up a spelling mistake or incorrect grammar usage very quickly and he would tell us too. (To be fair, I don't know about you but a spelling mistake does stick out like a sore thumb. Don't you think so?)
This brings me to the fourth indicator about being a sapiosexual in that you can't accept poor grammar. I mean, doesn't it annoy you when someone says, "I CU b4 9." WTF? That looks like morse code to me. What do you think?
I'm constantly astonished when I hear people ask why are those two together? It might be a five foot five guy with a big pot belly and a comb over hair cut with a five foot ten supermodel looking woman. Hands up how many of you think that either he is extremely rich or is well endowed? Probably a lot of you, right? What about the fact that they might actually be attracted to each other's intellect? She might look like a supermodel but she might have a PhD. He might look like a loser but he might be extremely well read and they are a perfect fit.
That reminds me of this:
The final thing that might indicate that you are a sapiosexual is that you just like knowledge. You like that the other person has a good general knowledge. You like the fact that the other person is good at Trivial Pursuit or some other quiz game. That person collecting six pies as quickly as possible is very sexy to you.
There you have it. It isn't all about the body. It isn't all about the biceps or the boobs or the abs or the eyes. it could be about the mind and that is what the sapiosexual is all about.
Apparently, a sapiosexual is someone who prefers someone's intelligence over their physical appearance.
This doesn't mean that you don't appreciate a man's pecs or biceps or calf muscles.
This doesn't mean that you don't appreciate a woman's legs or posterior or mammary glands.
No, it just means that you are more concerned about their intellect and what is going on in between their ears and also the interesting stuff that is coming out of their mouth.
What should you look for to know if you are a sapiosexual or not?
The first thing is that you might not find the person you meet attractive at start but the more you talk to them the more you grow to like them. Maybe from the beginning, their physical look might have not grabbed your attention but after that you realise that they do have something going on and you want to learn more about them.
The second thing that you might be a sapiosexual is that you would rather have a great intellectual conversation than play hide the sausage. I'm not saying that you don't want to play the aforementioned game but you get really stimulated by the conversation first and then you might do some other things.
The third thing to know if you are a sapiosexual or not is that you don't care if they have a BMW or a Rolex or wear Calvin Klein underwear. All that you care about is whether they are always learning. You care about if they want to have in-depth discussions. You are looking for someone who is well read. You are looking for someone who talks about the latest scientific discovery as opposed to what happened on Keeping up with the Kardashians. (By the way, that is not a dig at the Kardashian family. They must be doing something right to have millions of viewers a week. What do they say about people who watch too much television? Television is for people who have forgotten about their dreams and watch other people accomplishing their dreams. That sort of makes sense doesn't it? When we watch sport, that is basically what we are doing.)
When I was at high school, we had an assembly every morning. We would sing a song. I remember on Mondays it was the national anthem and then we would say the Lord's Prayer:
Our Father, which art in heaven
Hallowed be thy name.
Thy Kingdom come....
By the way, I'm not religious at all. I just remember the Lord's Prayer as we probably said it at school more than 1000 times.
After that, one of the senior teachers would read out messages and the like. One of the teachers was very funny in that he could pick up a spelling mistake or incorrect grammar usage very quickly and he would tell us too. (To be fair, I don't know about you but a spelling mistake does stick out like a sore thumb. Don't you think so?)
This brings me to the fourth indicator about being a sapiosexual in that you can't accept poor grammar. I mean, doesn't it annoy you when someone says, "I CU b4 9." WTF? That looks like morse code to me. What do you think?
I'm constantly astonished when I hear people ask why are those two together? It might be a five foot five guy with a big pot belly and a comb over hair cut with a five foot ten supermodel looking woman. Hands up how many of you think that either he is extremely rich or is well endowed? Probably a lot of you, right? What about the fact that they might actually be attracted to each other's intellect? She might look like a supermodel but she might have a PhD. He might look like a loser but he might be extremely well read and they are a perfect fit.
That reminds me of this:
The final thing that might indicate that you are a sapiosexual is that you just like knowledge. You like that the other person has a good general knowledge. You like the fact that the other person is good at Trivial Pursuit or some other quiz game. That person collecting six pies as quickly as possible is very sexy to you.
There you have it. It isn't all about the body. It isn't all about the biceps or the boobs or the abs or the eyes. it could be about the mind and that is what the sapiosexual is all about.
Monday, 1 May 2017
What I learned from Kimchi and a snack.
Should you give someone or something a second chance?
This is an age old question and it isn't something that you should take lightly. If you want to give them or it a second chance then go ahead but there are a few things you might have to take into account.
By the way, when I say, give someone a second chance, I mean either in a business relationship or maybe even someone who has done some work around your home or anyone really. In this post though I would like to concentrate on a lover or significant other.
I think anyone deserves a second chance if they have learned from their mistakes. Learning from your mistakes is a very difficult thing and if you do you have obviously worked hard at it and that is of benefit to both yourself and the people around you.
What should you look for when you give them a second chance?
1. It maybe good to give someone a second chance because they really want it. Maybe they have worked their tail off to get better. They have worked their tail off to become a better version of themselves. It would be basically starting from square one and that is a good thing. There is a new person you have to meet and get to know.
2. You should look for them telling the truth. You look for their honesty when you give them a second chance. They are been honest towards you. It might be difficult for you to hear but at least they are been true to you and themselves.
3. They may be worth a second chance because they are true to their word. They do exactly what they say and that word keeping can keep you rest assured that they will keep you safe and look after you as the relationship gets going again.
4. Give them a second chance because they share they same interests and hobbies as you. You know that doing things that you enjoy is equally as enjoyable if you are doing them with someone who shares your interest so why don't you give that person a second chance?
5. You want to give the other person another chance because they are happy when they are with you but they are equally happy if you don't give them another chance. I know from experience that clingy behaviour is not sexy at all but if they are making an honest effort and they have acknowledge that clingy behaviour then they may warrant a second chance.
If you are thinking about it, what do you have to lose. You might waste a little bit of your time or you could find something even better than what you left a few months before. It could open up a whole new world for you. Who knows?
Give them a second chance, you probably won't regret it and you won't die wondering.
Sunday, 30 April 2017
The Daily RBL Video Blog - Don't give up on Kimichi
Today's video blog is about kimchi and why you need to try it again if you didn't like it the first time. Kimichi is a Korean dish. It is, for want of a better explanation, spicy fermented cabbage and it is delicious.
The World's Most Awesome - YOU
They say that if you are going to do something then you might as well do it properly and why don't you try to be the best in the world at it?
That sounds crazy right, but, there is no reason why you and I can't be the world's greatest at what you choose to do.
Why not?
Listen to this song and tell me that this doesn't motivate you. I'm sure it will.
This might sound a little corny to some of you but this song helped me out of some troubled times a few years ago.
That sounds crazy right, but, there is no reason why you and I can't be the world's greatest at what you choose to do.
Why not?
Listen to this song and tell me that this doesn't motivate you. I'm sure it will.
This might sound a little corny to some of you but this song helped me out of some troubled times a few years ago.
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